The problem is not so easy o resolve 
Here a solution, with Simulated annealing algorithm.
############# Simulated annealing definitions
l=(1..20).to_a  # list of value
$size=l.size
#---------  make initial solution
aa=[[],[],[]]  # decompose l in 3 lists
aa[rand(0...aa.size)] <<  l.delete_at(rand(l.size)) while l.size>0
#-- add empty value (lists can have different size...)
aa.each {|a| a.concat([0]*(1+a.size/4))}
#--------- function to optimize :  sum of each listes should be near equals 
def performence(aa)
  res=aa.map {|l| l.reduce(0,:+) }
  -1.0*res.combination(2).map { |a,b|  (a-b)**2 }.reduce(0,:+)
end
#-------  Acceptance probabilities
# could be best :)
def opt(delta,temp)
 rand(100)<temp/2
end
############################################################
#   Simulated annealing Algorithm
############################################################
################## 
def choose(n,diff)
 i=diff
 i=rand(0...n) while i==diff
 i
end
def permute(array,from,to)
	array[from.first][from.last],array[to.first][to.last]=
		array[to.first][to.last],array[from.first][from.last]
end
last_perf=0
puts "initale perf=%f" % performence(aa)
100.downto(0) { |temp|
  (400*$size).times { |r|
	i1=choose(aa.size,-1)
	i2=choose(aa.size,i1)
	ii1=choose(aa[i1].size,-1)
	ii2=choose(aa[i2].size,-1)
	permute(aa,[i1,ii1],[i2,ii2])
	perf=performence(aa)
	delta=perf-last_perf
	if delta<0
		if opt(delta,temp) 
			#puts("xxtemp=%4d => perf=%6f" % [temp,perf]) if r%300>=0
			last_perf=perf
		else
			permute(aa,[i1,ii1],[i2,ii2]) # undo
		end
	else
		if delta>0
			#puts("**temp=%4d => perf=%6f/%6f" % [temp,perf,last_perf]) if r%300>=0
			last_perf=perf
		else
			permute(aa,[i1,ii1],[i2,ii2]) # undo
		end
	end
  }
}
puts "\n\nperf=%d" % performence(aa)
aa.each {|a| puts "(%4d) <= %s" % [a.reduce(0,:+),a.select {|x|x>0}.sort.inspect] }
Example of execution:
initale perf=-12462.000000
perf=0
(  70) <= [10, 11, 14, 15, 20]
(  70) <= [1, 3, 4, 5, 6, 8, 12, 13, 18]
(  70) <= [2, 7, 9, 16, 17, 19]
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