On 2 August 2010 17:15, Marnen Laibow-Koser [email protected]
First of all, do you really think telling people they are wrong is ipso
facto uncivil? I do not. I don’t really think anything is gained by
avoiding the issue.
No, I agree that there isn’t necessarily a causal relationship between
correction and lack of civility.
I am aware that I tend toward the blunt side when I write my responses,
but I think there’s a huge difference between that and the rather
mean-spirited tone that I recall noticing the last time I read ESR’s
I can’t comment on a comparison, as I don’t recall reading any of the
I certainly don’t think “civil” is the same as “sugar-coated”; I aim for
the former, not the latter, on this sort of list.
That’s fair enough, and nice to hear.
for example, you will not see name-calling or ad hominem attacks in my
Absolutely, and I’d even add, that when people start on you, you don’t
just tit-for-tat back.
if someone obviously doesn’t know what he’s doing, I see no point in not
(politely) pointing out that that’s the case.
Of course, I realize that everyone’s sensibilities are different.
That’s the rub; if you look at the times you’ve been railed on, it’s
due to a reply that wasn’t interpreted as being that polite.
I wish I could give some; I had a quick look in the archives, but
since you post from Ruby Forum, there’s no quick way to filter just
your posts. I’ve probably got some threads way down in my inbox, but
don’t want to dwell on it too much.
I tell you what; next time it all kicks off, we’ll dissect it
If you want a guideline: it is vanishingly rare for the “sneer” to be
intentional in my posts. This is part of what I am referring to as
civility. I just don’t do that unless fairly heavily provoked, and
usually not even then.
I know that But all I’m saying is that a lot of other people
seem to not get that, and it was just your claim to “an opinion I do
not really subscribe” that made me spray coffee on my keyboard!
PS Please don’t anyone think that I’m accusing Marnen of anything I’m
probably not worse at; being uncivil and short with people who ask
poor, easily Googled questions.